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Willy Gallant's blog ::The Walden Family and the Terrible,Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Friday






Willy Gallant's blog ::The Walden Family and the Terrible,Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Friday










Ｄｅｓｐｉｔｅ               ｐｏｐｕｌａｒ               ｂｅｌｉｅｆ,               ｔｈｅｒｅ               ａｒｅ               ａｃｔｕａｌｌｙ               ｆｏｕｒ               ｗａｙｓ               ｔｏ               ｅｎｄ               ａ               ｍａｒｒｉａｇｅ.

Ｔｈｅｓｅ               ｆｏｕｒ               ｗａｙｓ               ａｒｅ               ｌｉｔｉｇａｔｉｏｎ,               ａｒｂｉｔｒａｔｉｏｎ,               ｎｅｇｏｔｉａｔｉｏｎ               ａｎｄ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ.

(ＭｃＫｎｉｇｈｔ               &               Ｅｒｉｃｋｓｏｎ,               1999,               ｐ.

9)               Ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｉｓ               ｂｅｃｏｍｉｎｇ               ａｎ               ｉｎｃｒｅａｓｉｎｇｌｙ               ｐｏｐｕｌａｒ               ｍｅｔｈｏｄ               ｏｆ               ｄｅａｌｉｎｇ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｔｈｅ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｐｒｏｃｅｅｄｉｎｇｓ.

Ｔｈｅｒｅ               ａｒｅ               ｍａｎｙ               ｐｏｓｉｔｉｖｅ               ａｓｐｅｃｔｓ               ｗｈｉｃｈ               ｍａｋｅ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ａｆｆｏｒｄａｂｌｅ               ａｎｄ               ｌｅｓｓ               ｓｔｒｅｓｓｆｕｌ               ｔｈａｎ               ｔｒａｄｉｔｉｏｎａｌ               ｌｉｔｉｇａｔｉｏｎ.

Ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｏｆｆｅｒｓ               ｔｈｅ               ｏｐｐｏｒｔｕｎｉｔｙ               ｆｏｒ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｔｏ               ｓｅｔｔｌｅ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｄｉｆｆｅｒｅｎｃｅｓ               ｗｈｉｌｅ               ｄｉｖｉｄｉｎｇ               ｔｈｅ               ａｓｓｅｔｓ               ａｎｄ               ｍａｉｎｔａｉｎｉｎｇ               ｃｏｎｔｒｏｌ               ｏｖｅｒ               ｔｈｅ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｐｒｏｃｅｓｓ.

Ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｉｓ               ａ               ｇｒｏｗｉｎｇ               ｆｉｅｌｄ               ｗｈｉｃｈ               ｉｓ               ｃｏｎｔｉｎｕａｌｌｙ               ｅｘｐａｎｄｉｎｇ               ａｎｄ               ｓｈｏｕｌｄ               ｂｅ               ｕｔｉｌｉｚｅｄ               ｔｏ               ｇｕｉｄｅ               ｃｏｕｐｌｅｓ               ｔｏ               ｆｉｎｄ               ａ               ｗａｙ               ｔｏ               ｄｅａｌ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｏｎｅ               ａｎｏｔｈｅｒ               ｉｎ               ａ               ｍａｔｕｒｅ               ｍａｎｎｅｒ,               ｅｓｐｅｃｉａｌｌｙ               ｗｈｅｎ               ｃｈｉｌｄｒｅｎ               ａｒｅ               ｉｎｖｏｌｖｅｄ.
Ｉｎ               ｍｙ               ｐａｐｅｒ               Ｉ               ｗｉｌｌ               ｄｉｓｃｕｓｓ               ｔｈｅ               ｈｉｓｔｏｒｙ               ａｎｄ               ｄｅｖｅｌｏｐｍｅｎｔｓ               ｏｆ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ.

Ｉ               ｗｉｌｌ               ａｌｓｏ               ａｓｓｅｓ               ｔｈｅ               ｅｆｆｅｃｔｉｖｅｎｅｓｓ               ｏｆ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ａｎｄ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｕｒｒｅｎｔ               ｉｓｓｕｅｓ               ｒｅｌａｔｅｄ               ｔｏ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ.

Ｉ               ｗｉｌｌ               ａｌｓｏ               ｄｉｓｃｕｓｓ               ｔｈｅ               ｉｍｐｏｒｔａｎｃｅ               ｏｆ               ａ               ｎｅｕｔｒａｌ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｐｒｏｃｅｓｓ.

Ｌａｓｔｌｙ,               Ｉ               ｗｉｌｌ               ｇｉｖｅ               ｓｕｇｇｅｓｔｉｏｎｓ               ｆｏｒ               ｉｍｐｒｏｖｅｍｅｎｔｓ               ｗｈｉｃｈ               ｃｏｕｌｄ               ｂｅ               ｍａｄｅ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｆｉｅｌｄ               ｏｆ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ.

Ｔｈｅ               Ｈｉｓｔｏｒｙ               ｏｆ               Ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ
               Ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｉｓ               ｔｈｏｕｇｈｔ               ｔｏ               ｈａｖｅ               ｂｅｇｕｎ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ａｎｃｉｅｎｔ               ｔｉｍｅｓ               ｂｅｆｏｒｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｂｉｒｔｈ               ｏｆ               Ｊｅｓｕｓ               Ｃｈｒｉｓｔ.

(ＭｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎＡＤＲ.ｎｅｔ)               Ｈｏｗｅｖｅｒ,               ｔｈｉｓ               ａｎｃｉｅｎｔ               ｍｅｔｈｏｄ               ｏｆ               ｃｏｎｆｌｉｃｔ               ｒｅｓｏｌｕｔｉｏｎ               ｓｔｉｌｌ               ｃｏｎｔｉｎｕｅｓ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｉｓ               ｄａｙ               ｉｎ               ｍａｎｙ               ｎｅｗ               ｆｏｒｍａｔｓ.

Ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｗａｓ               ｄｅｖｅｌｏｐｅｄ               ａｓ               ａ               ｗａｙ               ｔｏ               ｓｏｌｖｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｉｎｃｒｅａｓｉｎｇ               ｎｕｍｂｅｒ               ｏｆ               ｃｏｎｆｌｉｃｔｓ               ａｓ               ｐｏｐｕｌａｔｉｏｎｓ               ｇｒｅｗ.

Ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｗａｓ,               ａｎｄ               ｉｓ               ｓｔｉｌｌ               ｕｓｅｄ               ｉｎ               ｒｅｌｉｇｉｏｕｓ               ａｎｄ               ｎｏｎ               ｒｅｌｉｇｉｏｕｓ               ｓｅｔｔｉｎｇｓ               ｓｕｃｈ               ａｓ               ｃｈｕｒｃｈｅｓ,               "ｋｉｎｓｈｉｐ               ｃｉｒｃｌｅｓ",               ｖｉｌｌａｇｅｓ,               ａｎｄ               ｔｈｅ               ｒｅｌｉｇｉｏｕｓ               ｇｒｏｕｐ               ｔｈｅ               Ｑｕａｋｅｒｓ.

(Ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ.ＡＤＲ.ｎｅｔ)
               Ｉ               ｗｏｕｌｄ               ｌｉｋｅ               ｔｏ               ｓｔａｒｔ               ｂｙ               ｅｘｐｌａｉｎｉｎｇ               ｗｈａｔ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｉｓ.

Ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｃａｎ               ｂｅ               ｓｉｍｐｌｙ               ｅｘｐｌａｉｎｅｄ               ａｓ               ｔｈｅ               ｅｎｄｉｎｇ               ｏｒ               ｄｉｓｓｏｌｕｔｉｏｎ               ｏｆ               ａ               ｍａｒｒｉａｇｅ               ｂｅｆｏｒｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｄｅａｔｈ               ｏｆ               ｅｉｔｈｅｒ               ｓｐｏｕｓｅ.

Ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ａｌｓｏ               ｈａｓ               ｈｉｓｔｏｒｉｃ               ｒｏｏｔｓ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｗｏｒｌｄ.

Ｉｔ               ｉｓ               ｅｓｔｉｍａｔｅｄ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｐｒｏｃｅｓｓ               ａｃｔｕａｌｌｙ               ｄａｔｅｓ               ｂａｃｋ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ｔｉｍｅｓ               ｏｆ               Ｍｅｓｏｐｏｔａｍｉａ.

(Ｗｉｋｉｐｅｄｉａ)               Ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｗａｓ               ｎｏｔ               ｅａｓｉｌｙ               ｇｒａｎｔｅｄ               ｄｕｒｉｎｇ               ｔｈｏｓｅ               ｔｉｍｅｓ,               ｔｈｅ               ｐｒｏｐｏｓａｌ               ｍｕｓｔ               ｂｅ               ｓｕｂｍｉｔｔｅｄ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ｍａｇｉｓｔｒａｔｅ.

Ｏｎｃｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｒｅｑｕｅｓｔ               ｗａｓ               ｓｕｂｍｉｔｔｅｄ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ｍａｇｉｓｔｒａｔｅ,               ｉｔ               ｗｏｕｌｄ               ｔｈｅｎ               ｂｅ               ｄｅｃｉｄｅｄ               ｉｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｒｅａｓｏｎｓ               ｓｕｂｍｉｔｔｅｄ               ｗｅｒｅ               ｓｕｆｆｉｃｉｅｎｔ               ｔｏ               ｇｒａｎｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ.

Ｄｕｒｉｎｇ               ｔｈｅ               Ｒｏｍａｎ               ｅｒａ,               ｃｏｕｐｌｅｓ               ｗｏｕｌｄ               "ｒｅｎｏｕｎｃｅ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｍａｒｒｉａｇｅｓ               ａｔ               ｗｉｌｌ".

(Ｗｉｋｉｐｅｄｉａ)               Ａｆｔｅｒ               ｔｈｅ               10ｔｈ               Ｃｅｎｔｕｒｙ,               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｗａｓ               ｇｅｎｅｒａｌｌｙ               ｐｒｏｈｉｂｉｔｅｄ.

Ｔｈｉｎｇｓ               ｈａｖｅ               ｓｉｇｎｉｆｉｃａｎｔｌｙ               ｃｈａｎｇｅｄ               ｓｉｎｃｅ               ｔｈｏｓｅ               ｔｉｍｅｓ.

Ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｕｓｔ               ｂｅ               ｇｒａｎｔｅｄ               ａｎｄ               ｉｓ               ｎｏｔ               ｔａｋｅｎ               ａｓ               ｌｉｇｈｔｌｙ               ａｓ               ｉｔ               ｗａｓ               ｐｒｅｖｉｏｕｓｌｙ.

Ｔｈｅｒｅ               ｈａｖｅ               ｂｅｅｎ               ｓｔｅｐｓ               ｗｈｉｃｈ               ｈａｖｅ               ｂｅｅｎ               ｔａｋｅｎ               ｔｏ               ｔｒｙ               ａｎｄ               ｄｅｃｒｅａｓｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｒａｔｅ.

Ｓｏｍｅ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｗａｙｓ               ｔｈａｔ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｒａｔｅｓ               ａｒｅ               ｂｅｉｎｇ               ｄｅｃｒｅａｓｅｄ               ｉｓ               ｂｙ               ｍａｎｄａｔｉｎｇ               ｐａｒｅｎｔｉｎｇ               ｃｌａｓｓｅｓ               ａｎｄ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｔｏ               ｓｅｅ               ｉｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｍａｒｒｉａｇｅ               ｉｓ               ｒｅｃｏｎｃｉｌａｂｌｅ.

Ｉ               ｗｉｌｌ               ｄｉｓｃｕｓｓ               ｔｈｅｓｅ               ｍａｎｄａｔｅｓ               ｔｈｒｏｕｇｈｏｕｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｐｅｒ.
               Ｔｈｅ               Ｄｅｖｅｌｏｐｍｅｎｔ
               Ｄｕｒｉｎｇ               ｔｈｅ               ｌａｓｔ               ｆｅｗ               ｄｅｃａｄｅｓ,               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｈａｓ               ｇｒｏｗｎ               ｉｍｍｅｎｓｅｌｙ               ｄｕｅ               ｔｏ               ｉｎｃｒｅａｓｉｎｇｌｙ               ｈｉｇｈ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｒａｔｅｓ.

(Ｅｍｅｒｙ,               Ｓｂａｒｒａ               &               Ｇｒｏｖｅｒ,               2005,               ｐ.1)               Ｔｈｅ               ｂｕｒｄｅｎ               ｏｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｏｕｒｔｓ               ｉｓ               ａｎｏｔｈｅｒ               ｓｕｂｓｔａｎｔｉａｌ               ｒｅａｓｏｎ               ｗｈｙ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｈａｓ               ｂｅｃｏｍｅ               ａ               ｐｏｐｕｌａｒ               ｍｅｔｈｏｄ               ｆｏｒ               ｄｅｃｉｄｉｎｇ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｃａｓｅｓ.

Ｔｈｅ               ｐｒｉｍａｒｙ               ｒｅａｓｏｎ               ｔｈａｔ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｉｓ               ｕｓｅｄ               ｉｎ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｉｓ               ｂｅｃａｕｓｅ               ｉｔ               ｃａｎ               ｐｏｓｅ               ｌｅｓｓ               ｓｔｒｅｓｓ               ｏｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｉｎｇ               ｃｏｕｐｌｅ               ａｎｄ               ｔｈｅ               ｆａｍｉｌｙ               ｒｅｌａｔｉｏｎｓｈｉｐ,               ｅｓｐｅｃｉａｌｌｙ               ｗｈｅｒｅ               ｃｈｉｌｄｒｅｎ               ａｒｅ               ｃｏｎｃｅｒｎｅｄ.

(Ｅｍｅｒｙ,               Ｓｂａｒｒａ               &               Ｇｒｏｖｅｒ,               2005               ｐ.

1)               Ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｌａｔｅ               1960'ｓ               ｔｈｅ               "ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｒａｔｅｓ               ｅｓｃａｌａｔｅｄ               ｒａｐｉｄｌｙ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               Ｕｎｉｔｅｄ               Ｓｔａｔｅｓ".

(Ｅｍｅｒｙ,               Ｓｂａｒｒａ               &               Ｇｒｏｖｅｒ,               2005,               ｐ.2)               Ｉｎ               ｔｏｄａｙ'ｓ               ｓｏｃｉｅｔｙ,               ｉｔ               ｉｓ               ｅｓｔｉｍａｔｅｄ               ｔｈａｔ               50%               ｏｆ               ｍａｒｒｉａｇｅｓ               ｗｉｌｌ               ｅｎｄ               ｉｎ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ.

Ｔｈｉｓ               ｐｅｒｃｅｎｔａｇｅ               ｉｎｃｒｅａｓｅｓ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｅａｃｈ               ｓｕｂｓｅｑｕｅｎｔ               ｍａｒｒｉａｇｅ.

Ｔｈｅ               ｓｔａｔｉｓｔｉｃｓ               ｓｈｏｗ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｏｓｅ               ｗｈｏ               ａｒｅ               ｍａｒｒｉｅｄ               ａ               ｓｅｃｏｎｄ               ｔｉｍｅ               ａｒｅ               ａｔ               ａ               ｒｉｓｋ               ｆｏｒ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ａｔ               67%,               ａｎｄ               ｂｙ               ｔｈｅ               ｔｈｉｒｄ               ｍａｒｒｉａｇｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｒｉｓｋ               ｉｎｃｒｅａｓｅｓ               ｔｏ               74%.

(ＡｂｏｕｔＤｉｖｏｒｃｅ.Ｏｒｇ)               
               Ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒｓ               ｃａｎ               ｗｏｒｋ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｐｒｉｖａｔｅ               ｓｅｃｔｏｒ               ａｓ               ｗｅｌｌ               ａｓ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｐｕｂｌｉｃ               ｓｅｃｔｏｒ.

Ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｗｉｌｌ               ｎｅｅｄ               ｔｏ               ｄｅｃｉｄｅ               ｗｈｉｃｈ               ｔｙｐｅ               ｏｆ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｉｓ               ｒｉｇｈｔ               ｆｏｒ               ｔｈｅｍ.

Ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               "ｐｒｉｖａｔｅ               ｓｅｃｔｏｒ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｒｅｐｌａｃｅｓ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｏｎｖｅｎｔｉｏｎａｌ               ｍｅｔｈｏｄ               ｏｆ               ｎｅｇｏｔｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｔｈｒｏｕｇｈ               ｌａｗｙｅｒｓ".

(Ｓｉｎｇｅｒ,               1994               ｐ.

38)               Ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｄｏｅｓ               ｎｏｔ               ｈｏｗｅｖｅｒ               ｅｌｉｍｉｎａｔｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｎｅｅｄ               ｆｏｒ               ａｔｔｏｒｎｅｙｓ               ｉｎ               ｓｏｍｅ               ｃａｓｅｓ.

Ｔｈｅ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｐｒｏｃｅｓｓ               ｉｓ               ａｂｏｕｔ               ｆｉｎｄｉｎｇ               ａ               ｒｅｓｏｌｕｔｉｏｎ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｃａｎ               ｌｉｖｅ               ｗｉｔｈ,               ｗｈｉｌｅ               ｔａｋｉｎｇ               ｔｈｅ               ａｔｔｏｒｎｅｙ               ｏｕｔ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｅｑｕａｔｉｏｎ               ａｓ               ｍｕｃｈ               ａｓ               ｐｏｓｓｉｂｌｅ.

Ａｓ               ｍｅｎｔｉｏｎｅｄ               ｂｅｆｏｒｅ               ｔｈｅｒｅ               ｍａｙ               ｂｅ               ｅｘｔｅｎｕａｔｉｎｇ               ｃｉｒｃｕｍｓｔａｎｃｅｓ               ｗｈｉｃｈ               ｒｅｑｕｉｒｅ               ｂｏｔｈ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ａｎｄ               ｌｉｔｉｇａｔｉｏｎ.


               Ｔｈｅ               ｔｒａｄｉｔｉｏｎａｌ               ｍｅｔｈｏｄ               ｏｆ               ｇｅｔｔｉｎｇ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅｄ               ｃａｎ               ｂｅ               ｃｏｍｐａｒｅｄ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               "ｃｈｉｌｄｒｅｎ'ｓ               ｇａｍｅ               ｏｆ               ｔｅｌｅｐｈｏｎｅ".

(Ｓｉｎｇｅｒ,               1994,               ｐ.

38)               Ｉｎｓｔｅａｄ               ｏｆ               ｄｉｓｃｕｓｓｉｎｇ               ｔｈｅ               ｉｓｓｕｅｓ               ｆａｃｅ               ｔｏ               ｆａｃｅ,               ｔｈｅ               ｌａｙｗｅｒｓ               ｔｅｎｄ               ｔｏ               ｕｓｅ               ｓｈｕｔｔｌｅ               ｄｉｐｌｏｍａｃｙ               ｔｏ               ｆｉｎｄ               ｒｅｓｏｌｕｔｉｏｎｓ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｏｎｆｌｉｃｔ.

Ｔｈｅｒｅ               ｉｓ               ｎｏｔｈｉｎｇ               ｗｒｏｎｇ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｔｈｉｓ               ｍｅｔｈｏｄ               ｂｕｔ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｓｏｍｅ               ｓｉｔｕａｔｉｏｎｓ               ｉｔ               ｉｓ               ｎｏｔ               ａｐｐｒｏｐｒｉａｔｅ.

Ｗｉｔｈ               ｔｈｉｓ               ｔｙｐｅ               ｏｆ               ｎｅｇｏｔｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｅｎｔｉｒｅ               ｐｏｉｎｔ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｏｎｖｅｒｓａｔｉｏｎ               ｃａｎ               ｂｅ               ｌｏｓｔ.

Ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ａｒｅ               ｎｏｔ               ｉｎ               ｃｏｎｔｒｏｌ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｄｅｓｔｉｎｙ               ｓｏ               ｔｏ               ｓｐｅａｋ.

Ｗｈｅｎ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｕｓｅ               ａｔｔｏｒｎｅｙｓ               ｔｏ               ｒｅｐｒｅｓｅｎｔ               ｔｈｅｍ,               ｔｈｅｙ               ａｒｅ               ｉｎ               ｅｓｓｅｎｃｅ               ｒｅｌｉｎｑｕｉｓｈｉｎｇ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｒｉｇｈｔｓ               ｔｏ               ｍａｋｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｊｕｄｇｍｅｎｔ               ｃａｌｌ               ａｂｏｕｔ               ｗｈａｔ               ｉｓ               ａｐｐｒｏｐｒｉａｔｅ               ｆｏｒ               ｔｈｅｍ.

Ｔｈｅ               ｒｅａｓｏｎ               ｆｏｒ               ｔｈｉｓ               ｉｓ               ｂｅｃａｕｓｅ               ｔｈｏｓｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｂｅｇｉｎ               ｔｏ               ｍｉｓｃｏｎｓｔｒｕｅ               ｗｈａｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｏｔｈｅｒ               ｐａｒｔｙ               ｈａｓ               ｓａｉｄ               ｄｕｅ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ａｄｖｅｒｓａｒｉａｌ               ｎａｔｕｒｅ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｐｒｏｃｅｓｓ               ｗｈｅｎ               ｕｓｉｎｇ               ａｎ               ａｔｔｏｒｎｅｙ.

Ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｆｏｃｕｓｅｓ               ｏｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｐｒｏｂｌｅｍ,               ｎｏｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｐｅｏｐｌｅ.

Ｔｈｅ               ｐｒｏｂｌｅｍｓ               ｓｈｏｕｌｄ               ｂｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｆｏｃｕｓ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｄｉｓｃｕｓｓｉｏｎｓ,               ａｎｄ               ｎｏｔ               ｗｈａｔ               ｈｅ               ｓａｉｄ               ｓｈｅ               ｓａｉｄ               ｔｙｐｅ               ｏｆ               ｍｅｎｔａｌｉｔｙ,               ｏｒ               ｙｏｕ               ｈｕｒｔ               ｍｅ               ｓｏ               Ｉ               ａｍ               ｇｏｉｎｇ               ｔｏ               ｇｅｔ               ｙｏｕ.

Ｕｎｆｏｒｔｕｎａｔｅｌｙ,               ｗｈｅｎ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｉｓ               ｌｉｔｉｇａｔｅｄ               ｔｈｅ               ｉｓｓｕｅｓ               ａｒｅ               ｎｏｔ               ａｌｗａｙｓ               ａｄｄｒｅｓｓｅｄ               ａｎｄ               ｐｅｏｐｌｅ               ｍａｙ               ｆｅｅｌ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅｙ               ｈａｖｅ               ｎｏｔ               ｂｅｅｎ               ｈｅａｒｄ.
               Ｔｈｅ               Ｅｆｆｅｃｔｉｖｅｎｅｓｓ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               Ｐｒｏｃｅｓｓ               ａｎｄ               ｔｈｅ               Ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ
               Ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｗｏｒｋｓ               ｆｏｒ               ｍａｎｙ               ｒｅａｓｏｎｓ.

Ｔｈｒｅｅ               ｒｅａｓｏｎｓ               ｗｈｙ               ｉｔ               ｗｏｒｋｓ               ａｒｅ               ａｓ               ｆｏｌｌｏｗｓ:
               Ｉｔ               ｃａｎ               ｈｅｌｐ               ａｌｌｅｖｉａｔｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｓｔｒｅｓｓ               ａｎｄ               ｃｏｓｔｓ               ａｓｓｏｃｉａｔｅｄ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｔｒａｄｉｔｉｏｎａｌ               ｌｉｔｉｇａｔｉｏｎ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｏｕｒｔ               ｓｙｓｔｅｍ.

Ｂｏｔｈ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ａｒｅ               ｇｅｎｅｒａｌｌｙ               ｗｏｒｋｉｎｇ               ｔｏｇｅｔｈｅｒ               ｉｎ               ａ               ｖｏｌｕｎｔａｒｙ               ｍａｎｎｅｒ               ｆｏｒ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｏｍｍｏｎ               ｇｏａｌ               ｏｆ               ａ               ｐｅａｃｅｆｕｌ               ｒｅｓｏｌｕｔｉｏｎ.

Ｔｈｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｓｅｒｖｅｓ               ａｓ               ａ               ｇｕｉｄｅ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｂｙ               "ａｓｓｉｓｔｉｎｇ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｃｏｍｍｕｎｉｃａｔｉｏｎ,               ｃｌａｒｉｆｙｉｎｇ               ａｎｄ               ｄｅｖｅｌｏｐｉｎｇ               ｏｐｔｉｏｎｓ               ｔｏ               ｒｅｓｏｌｖｅ               ｃｏｎｆｌｉｃｔ".

(ＭｃＫｎｉｇｈｔ               &               Ｅｒｉｃｋｓｏｎ,               1999               ｐ.

9).


               Ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｒｅｇａｒｄｓ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｏｓｔ               ａｎｄ               ｔｉｍｅ,               ｒｅｓｅａｒｃｈ               ｈａｓ               ｆｏｕｎｄ               ｔｈａｔ               ｍａｎｙ               ｃｏｕｐｌｅｓ               ｗｅｒｅ               ａｂｌｅ               ｔｏ               ｓｅｔｔｌｅ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｄｉｓｐｕｔｅｓ               ｉｎ               "ａｂｏｕｔ               ｈａｌｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｔｉｍｅ"               ｗｈｅｎ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｗａｓ               ｄｅｃｉｄｅｄ               ｔｈｒｏｕｇｈ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｖｅｒｓｕｓ               ｔｈｅ               ｔｒａｄｉｔｉｏｎａｌ               ｍｅｔｈｏｄ               ｏｆ               ｌｉｔｉｇａｔｉｏｎ.

(Ｅｍｅｒｙ,               Ｓｂａｒｒａ               &               Ｇｒｏｖｅｒ,               2005,               ｐ.5)               Ｉｔ               ｃａｎ               ａｌｓｏ               ｂｅ               ｓｉｇｎｉｆｉｃａｎｔｌｙ               ｌｅｓｓ               ｃｏｓｔｌｙ               ａｎｄ               ｔｉｍｅ               ｃｏｎｓｕｍｉｎｇ               ｔｈａｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｔｒａｄｉｔｉｏｎａｌ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｐｒｏｃｅｓｓ.

(Ｅｍｅｒｙ,               Ｓｂａｒｒａ               &               Ｇｒｏｖｅｒ,               2005,               ｐ.5)               Ｔｈｅ               ｍａｉｎ               ｃｏｎｃｅｒｎ               ｗｉｔｈ               ａｎｙ               ｔｙｐｅ               ｏｆ               ｄｉｓｐｕｔｅ               ｉｓ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｗｉｌｌ               ｂｅ               ａｂｌｅ               ｔｏ               ｃｏｍｅ               ｔｏ               ａ               ｒｅｓｏｌｕｔｉｏｎ,               ａｎｄ               ｂｅ               ａｂｌｅ               ｔｏ               ｆｏｌｌｏｗ               ｔｈｒｏｕｇｈ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｔｈｅ               ｄｅｃｉｓｉｏｎｓ               ｔｈａｔ               ｈａｖｅ               ｂｅｅｎ               ｍａｄｅ.

Ｗｉｔｈ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ,               ｔｈｅ               ｃｏｕｐｌｅｓ               ｉｎｖｏｌｖｅｄ               ｉｎ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ａｒｅ               "ｍｏｒｅ               ｌｉｋｅｌｙ               ｔｏ               ａｄｈｅｒｅ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ａｇｒｅｅｍｅｎｔｓ               ｒｅａｃｈｅｄ               ｂｅｃａｕｓｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｐｒｏｃｅｓｓ               ｉｓ               ｍｏｒｅ               ｃｏｏｐｅｒａｔｉｖｅ               ａｎｄ               ｂｅｃａｕｓｅ               ｐａｒｅｎｔｓ               ｗｉｌｌ               ｆｅｅｌ               ｉｎｃｒｅａｓｅｄ               ｏｗｎｅｒｓｈｉｐ               ｏｖｅｒ               ａｇｒｅｅｍｅｎｔｓ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅｙ               ｒｅａｃｈ               ｏｎ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｏｗｎ".

(Ｅｍｅｒｙ,               Ｓｂａｒｒａ               &               Ｇｒｏｖｅｒ,               2005,               ｐ.5)
               Ｏｎ               ａｖｅｒａｇｅ,               "ｐａｒｔｙ               ｓａｔｉｓｆａｃｔｉｏｎ               ｗａｓ               ｈｉｇｈｅｒ"               ｉｎ               ｃａｓｅｓ               ｗｈｉｃｈ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｗａｓ               ｐｅｒｆｏｒｍｅｄ               ｉｎ               ｃｏｍｐａｒｉｓｏｎ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ｔｒａｄｉｔｉｏｎａｌ               ａｄｖｅｒｓａｒｉａｌ               ｍｅｔｈｏｄｓ               ｏｆ               ｌｉｔｉｇａｔｉｏｎ.

Ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｓｔａｔｅｄ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅｙ               ｆｅｌｔ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅｙ               ｗｅｒｅ               ｈｅａｒｄ,               ａｎｄ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｆｅｅｌｉｎｇｓ               ｗｅｒｅ               ｕｎｄｅｒｓｔｏｏｄ.

Ｍｏｒｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｗｅｒｅ               "ｓａｔｉｓｆｉｅｄ"               ｗｉｔｈ               ｔｈｅ               ｒｅｓｕｌｔｓ               ｏｆ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｌｏｎｇ               ｒｕｎ,               ｔｈａｎ               ｐａｒｅｎｔｓ               ｗｈｏ               ｗｅｒｅ               ｅｘｐｏｓｅｄ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ｔｒａｄｉｔｉｏｎａｌ               ｒｏｕｔｅ               ｏｆ               ｌｉｔｉｇａｔｉｏｎ.

(Ｅｍｅｒｙ,               Ｓｂａｒｒａ               &               Ｇｒｏｖｅｒ,               2005,               ｐ.5)
               Ａｎ               ｅｆｆｅｃｔｉｖｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｍｕｓｔ               ｂｅ               ａｂｌｅ               ｔｏ               ｒｅｍａｉｎ               ｉｍｐａｒｔｉａｌ               ｗｈｉｃｈ               ｃａｎ               ｂｅ               ｄｉｆｆｉｃｕｌｔ               ｉｎ               ｃａｓｅｓ               ｗｈｉｃｈ               ａｒｅ               ｈｉｇｈｌｙ               ｓｔｒｅｓｓｆｕｌ               ｏｒ               ｃｈａｏｔｉｃ.

Ｔｈｅ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｓｈｏｕｌｄ               ｂｅ               ｅｘｐｅｒｉｅｎｃｅｄ               ｗｉｔｈ               ａｄｅｑｕａｔｅ               ｔｒａｉｎｉｎｇ               ａｎｄ               ｔｈｅ               ａｂｉｌｉｔｙ               "ｔｏ               ｈｅｌｐ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｂａｓｅ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｄｅｃｉｓｉｏｎｓ               ｏｎ               ｓｕｆｆｉｃｉｅｎｔ               ｆａｃｔｕａｌ               ｄａｔａ."               (Ｍｅｄｉａｔｅ.ｃｏｍ)               Ｔｈｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｍｕｓｔ               ａｌｓｏ               ｂｅ               ａｂｌｅ               ｔｏ               ｅｘａｍｉｎｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｕｌｔｕｒａｌ               ｄｉｆｆｅｒｅｎｃｅｓ               ｉｓ               ａｎｙ,               ａｎｄ               ｈａｓ               ａｎ               ｕｎｄｅｒｓｔａｎｄｉｎｇ               ｔｈａｔ               ｎｏｔ               ａｌｌ               ｃｕｌｔｕｒｅｓ               ａｒｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｓａｍｅ.

Ｔｈｅ               ｉｎｔｅｒｅｓｔ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｈｉｌｄｒｅｎ               ｉｓ               ｃｒｉｔｉｃａｌ               ａｎｄ               ｓｈｏｕｌｄ               ｂｅ               ｔａｋｅｎ               ｓｅｒｉｏｕｓｌｙ               ｉｎ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ.

Ｔｈｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｓｈｏｕｌｄ               ａｌｓｏ               ｂｅ               ａｗａｒｅ               ｏｆ               ｓｉｇｎｓ               ｏｆ               "ｄｏｍｅｓｔｉｃ               ａｂｕｓｅ,               ｏｒ               ｃｈｉｌｄ               ａｂｕｓｅ".

(Ｍｅｄｉａｔｅ.ｃｏｍ)
               Ａｃｃｏｒｄｉｎｇ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               "Ｍｏｄｅｌ               Ｓｔａｎｄａｒｄｓ               ｏｆ               Ｐｒａｃｔｉｃｅ               ｆｏｒ               Ｆａｍｉｌｙ               ａｎｄ               Ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               Ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ"               ｔｈｅｒｅ               ａｒｅ               ｓｔｅｐｓ               ｗｈｉｃｈ               ｍｕｓｔ               ｂｅ               ｔａｋｅｎ               ｔｏ               ｂｅ               ａｎ               ｅｆｆｅｃｔｉｖｅ               ａｎｄ               ｅｔｈｉｃａｌ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ.

(Ｍｅｄｉａｔｅ.ｃｏｍ)               Ａｓ               ａｎ               ｅｆｆｅｃｔｉｖｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ,               ｔｈｅｙ               ｓｈｏｕｌｄ               ｂｅ               ａｂｌｅ               ｔｏ               "ｓｅｒｖｅ               ａｓ               ａ               ｇｕｉｄｅ               ｆｏｒ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｏｎｄｕｃｔ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｆａｍｉｌｙ               ｍｅｍｂｅｒｓ."               (Ｍｅｄｉａｔｅ.ｃｏｍ)               Ｔｈｉｓ               ｃａｎ               ｂｅ               ｄｏｎｅ               ｂｙ               ｍｏｄｅｌｉｎｇ               ａｐｐｒｏｐｒｉａｔｅ               ｂｅｈａｖｉｏｒ               ａｎｄ               ｎｏｔ               ａｌｌｏｗｉｎｇ               ｐｅｒｓｏｎａｌ               ａｔｔａｃｋｓ               ａｇａｉｎｓｔ               ｅａｃｈ               ｏｔｈｅｒ.

Ｔｈｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｍｕｓｔ               ａｌｓｏ               ｒｅｍｅｍｂｅｒ               ｎｏｔ               ｔｏ               ｐｌａｙ               ｉｎｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ｅｍｏｔｉｏｎｓ               ｏｆ               ｅｉｔｈｅｒ               ｐａｒｔｙ.

Ｔｈｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｉｓ               ａｌｓｏ               ｒｅｓｐｏｎｓｉｂｌｅ               ｆｏｒ               ｔｈｏｒｏｕｇｈｌｙ               ｅｘｐｌａｉｎｉｎｇ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｃｉｐａｎｔｓ               ｗｈａｔ               "ｔｈｅｙ               ｃａｎ               ｅｘｐｅｃｔ"               ｆｒｏｍ               ｔｈｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｐｒｏｃｅｓｓ.

(Ｍｅｄｉａｔｅ.ｃｏｍ)               Ｔｈｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｓｈｏｕｌｄ               ａｌｓｏ               ｐｒｏｍｏｔｅ               "ｐｕｂｌｉｃ               ｃｏｎｆｉｄｅｎｃｅ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｐｒｏｃｅｓｓ."               (Ｍｅｄｉａｔｅ.ｃｏｍ)               Ｔｈｉｓ               ｃａｎ               ｂｅ               ａｃｃｏｍｐｌｉｓｈｅｄ               ｂｙ               ｄｅｍｏｎｓｔｒａｔｉｎｇ               ｔｈａｔ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｉｓ               ａ               ｄｉｇｎｉｆｉｅｄ               ｐｒｏｃｅｓｓ               ｗｈｉｃｈ               ｈｅｌｐｓ               ｔｏ               ｐｒｏｖｉｄｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｒｅａｌ,               ａｃｃｅｐｔａｂｌｅ               ｓｏｌｕｔｉｏｎｓ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｄｉｓｐｕｔｅｓ.
               Ｕｎｆｏｒｔｕｎａｔｅｌｙ               ｔｈｅｒｅ               ａｒｅ               ｓｔｉｌｌ               ｏｎｌｙ               "ｌｏｏｓｅ               ｓｔａｎｄａｒｄｓ               ｏｆ               ｐｒａｃｔｉｃｅ"               ｓｅｔ               ｆｏｒｔｈ               ｂｙ               ｔｈｅ               Ｓｏｃｉｅｔｙ               ｏｆ               Ｐｒｏｆｅｓｓｉｏｎａｌｓ               ｉｎ               Ｄｉｓｐｕｔｅ               Ｒｅｓｏｌｕｔｉｏｎ,               ｔｈｅ               Ａｍｅｒｉｃａｎ               Ｂａｒ               Ａｓｓｏｃｉａｔｉｏｎ,               ａｎｄ               ｓｅｖｅｒａｌ               ｏｔｈｅｒｓ.

(Ｓｉｎｇｅｒ,               1994,               ｐ.

40)               Ｔｈｉｓ               ｉｓ               ｏｎｅ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｒｅａｓｏｎｓ               ｗｈｙ               ｉｔ               ｉｓ               ｓｏ               ｄｉｆｆｉｃｕｌｔ               ｔｏ               "ｅｖａｌｕａｔｅ"               ａ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ.

(Ｓｉｎｇｅｒ,               1994.

ｐ.

39)               Ｉｎ               ｍａｎｙ               ｃａｓｅｓ,               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒｓ               ａｒｅ               ｒｅｆｅｒｒｅｄ               ｔｏ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｂｙ               ｗｏｒｄ               ｏｆ               ｍｏｕｔｈ               ｂａｓｅｄ               ｕｐｏｎ               ｅｘｐｅｒｉｅｎｃｅｓ               ｔｈａｔ               ｏｔｈｅｒ               ｐｅｏｐｌｅ               ｈａｖｅ               ｈａｄ               ｏｒ               ｋｎｏｗ               ｏｆ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｔｈａｔ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ.

Ａｌｔｈｏｕｇｈ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒｓ               ｃａｎ               ｂｅ               ｆｏｕｎｄ               ｍａｎｙ               ｏｔｈｅｒ               ｗａｙｓ,               ｏｎｌｉｎｅ,               ｔｈｅ               ｐｈｏｎｅ               ｂｏｏｋ,               ａｒｔｉｃｌｅｓ               ａｎｄ               ｏｆ               ｃｏｕｒｓｅ               ｒｅｃｏｍｍｅｎｄａｔｉｏｎｓ               ｊｕｓｔ               ｔｏ               ｎａｍｅ               ａ               ｆｅｗ.

(Ｓｉｎｇｅｒ,               1994,               ｐ.

40)
               Ｔｈｅｒｅ               ａｒｅ               ｏｆ               ｃｏｕｒｓｅ               ｏｔｈｅｒ               ｉｍｐｏｒｔａｎｔ               ａｓｐｅｃｔｓ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｐｒｉｖａｔｅ               ｓｅｃｔｏｒ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ'ｓ               ｃｏｍｐｒｅｈｅｎｓｉｏｎ               ｔｈａｔ               ｓｈｏｕｌｄ               ｂｅ               ｅｘａｍｉｎｅｄ               ｂｅｆｏｒｅ               ｕｔｉｌｉｚｉｎｇ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｓｅｒｖｉｃｅｓ.

Ｔｈｅ               ｆｉｒｓｔ               ｉｓ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｓｈｏｕｌｄ               ｂｅ               ｆａｍｉｌｉａｒ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｔｈｅ               "ｌａｗｓ               ｇｏｖｅｒｎｉｎｇ               ｓｅｐａｒａｔｉｏｎ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｊｕｒｉｓｄｉｃｔｉｏｎ".

(Ｓｉｎｇｅｒ,               1994,               ｐ.

40)               Ｔｈｅ               ｓｅｃｏｎｄ               ａｓｐｅｃｔ               ｏｆ               ｇｒｅａｔ               ｉｍｐｏｒｔａｎｃｅ               ｉｎ               ｃｈｏｏｓｉｎｇ               ａ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｉｓ               ｗｈｅｔｈｅｒ               ｏｒ               ｎｏｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               "ｐｏｓｓｅｓ               ｓｏｍｅ               ｂａｓｉｃ               ｃｏｕｎｓｅｌｉｎｇ               ｓｋｉｌｌｓ,               ｃａｎ               ｔｈｅｙ               ｅｍｐａｔｈｉｚｅ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ?

ｃａｎ               ｔｈｅｙ               ｒｅｍａｉｎ               ｎｅｕｔｒａｌ?

ａｒｅ               ｔｈｅｙ               ａ               ｇｏｏｄ               ｌｉｓｔｅｎｅｒ?

(Ｓｉｎｇｅｒ,               1994,               ｐ.

40)
               Ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｃａｎ               ａｌｓｏ               ｂｅ               ａｖａｉｌａｂｌｅ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｏｕｒｔ               ｓｅｔｔｉｎｇ.

Ｔｈｅｓｅ               ｉｎ               ｃｏｕｒｔ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎｓ               ａｒｅ               ｓｏｍｅｔｉｍｅｓ               ｐｒｏｖｉｄｅｄ               ｂｙ               "ｓｏｃｉａｌ               ｗｏｒｋｅｒｓ,               ｖｏｌｕｎｔｅｅｒｓ,               ｏｒ               ｐｒｉｖａｔｅ               ｃｏｎｔｒａｃｔ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒｓ".

(Ｓｉｎｇｅｒ,               1994,               ｐ.

41)               Ｔｈｅｒｅ               ｉｓ               ａ               ｓｕｂｓｔａｎｔｉａｌ               ｄｉｆｆｅｒｅｎｃｅ               ｂｅｔｗｅｅｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｐｒｉｖａｔｅ               ｓｅｃｔｏｒ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ａｎｄ               ｃｏｕｒｔ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｗａｙ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｏｕｒｔ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｄｅａｌｓ               ｐｒｉｍａｒｉｌｙ               ｗｉｔｈ               "ｃｈｉｌｄ               ｃｕｓｔｏｄｙ               ａｎｄ               ｖｉｓｉｔａｔｉｏｎ               ｒｉｇｈｔｓ."               (Ｓｉｎｇｅｒ,               1994,               ｐ.

41)               Ｐｒｉｖａｔｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｄｅａｌｓ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｓｏｌｖｉｎｇ               ｃｏｎｃｒｅｔｅ               ｐｒｏｂｌｅｍｓ               ａｎｄ               ｎｏｔ               ｊｕｓｔ               ｃｈｉｌｄ               ｃｕｓｔｏｄｙ               ａｎｄ               ｖｉｓｉｔａｔｉｏｎ.

Ｔｈｉｓ               ｉｓ               ｎｏｔ               ｔｏ               ｓａｙ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅｓｅ               ａｒｅ               ｎｏｔ               ｉｍｐｏｒｔａｎｔ               ｉｓｓｕｅｓ,               ｂｕｔ               ｄｕｅ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ｌｉｍｉｔｅｄ               ｒｅｓｏｕｒｃｅｓ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｏｕｒｔｓ               ｔｈｅｙ               ｍｕｓｔ               ｌｉｍｉｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ｍｏｓｔ               ｉｍｐｏｒｔａｎｔ               ｉｓｓｕｅｓ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｐｒｏｃｅｓｓ.
               Ｔｏ               ｒｅｉｔｅｒａｔｅ,               ｉｔ               ｉｓ               ｕｐ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｔｏ               ｄｅｃｉｄｅ               ｗｈｉｃｈ               ｔｙｐｅ               ｏｆ               ｓｅｔｔｉｎｇ               ａｎｄ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｗｉｌｌ               ｂｅ               ａｐｐｒｏｐｒｉａｔｅ               ｆｏｒ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｓｉｔｕａｔｉｏｎ.

Ｔｈａｔ               ｉｓ               ｏｆ               ｃｏｕｒｓｅ               ｐｒｏｖｉｄｅｄ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｈａｖｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｏｐｐｏｒｔｕｎｉｔｙ               ｔｏ               ｃｈｏｏｓｅ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｏｗｎ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ.

Ｓｏｍｅ               ｐｅｏｐｌｅ               ｍａｙ               ｎｏｔ               ｂｅ               ａｌｌｏｗｅｄ               ｔｏ               ｃｈｏｏｓｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ,               ｉｔ               ｍａｙ               ｂｅ               ｃｏｕｒｔ               ｏｒｄｅｒｅｄ               ｔｏ               ｓｏｌｖｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｄｉｓｐｕｔｅ.
               Ｃｕｒｒｅｎｔ               Ｉｓｓｕｅｓ
               Ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｗｏｒｌｄ               ｔｈａｔ               ｗｅ               ｌｉｖｅ               ｉｎ,               ｗｅ               ａｒｅ               ｕｎａｂｌｅ               ｔｏ               ａｖｏｉｄ               ｃｏｎｆｌｉｃｔ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｏｔｈｅｒｓ.

Ｉｔ               ｉｓ               ａ               ｐａｒｔ               ｏｆ               ｗｈａｔ               ｋｅｅｐｓ               ｔｈｅ               ｗｏｒｌｄ               ｉｎｔｅｒｅｓｔｉｎｇ               ａｎｄ               ｔｈｅ               ｏｐｐｏｒｔｕｎｉｔｙ               ｆｏｒ               ｄｉｆｆｅｒｅｎｃｅｓ               ｉｎ               ｏｐｉｎｉｏｎ.Ｕｎｆｏｒｔｕａｎｔｅｌｙ,               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｈａｓ               ｓｅｅｍｉｎｇｌｙ               ｂｅｃｏｍｅ               ａｎ               ｅｐｉｄｅｍｉｃ               ｉｎ               ｏｕｒ               ｍｏｄｅｒｎ               ｌｉｖｅｓ.

Ｔｈｉｓ               ｉｓ               ａ               ｓｅｒｉｏｕｓ               ｃｏｎｃｅｒｎ               ｂｅｃａｕｓｅ               ｉｔ               ｈａｓ               ａｌｍｏｓｔ               ｂｅｃｏｍｅ               ｔｏｏ               ｅａｓｙ               ｔｏ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｙｏｕｒ               ｓｐｏｕｓｅ.

Ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               Ｓｔａｔｅ               ｏｆ               Ｃｏｌｏｒａｄｏ,               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｍｕｓｔ               ｆｉｒｓｔ               ｍｅｅｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｆｉｌｉｎｇ               ｒｅｑｕｉｒｅｍｅｎｔｓ               ｆｏｒ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ.

Ｔｈｉｓ               ｍｅａｎｓ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｍｕｓｔ               ｓａｔｉｓｆｙ               ｔｈｅ               ｒｅｑｕｉｒｅｍｅｎｔ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅ               "ｍａｒｒｉａｇｅ               ｉｓ               ｉｒｒｅｔｒｉｅｖａｂｌｙ               ｂｒｏｋｅｎ".

(Ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               Ｓｏｕｒｃｅ.ｃｏｍ)               Ｉｎ               ｓｏｍｅ               ｃａｓｅｓ,               ｃｏｕｎｓｅｌｉｎｇ               ｏｒ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｍａｙ               ｂｅ               ａ               ｒｅｑｕｉｒｅｍｅｎｔ.

"Ｉｆ               ｒｅｃｏｎｃｉｌｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｓｅｅｍｓ               ｐｏｓｓｉｂｌｅ,               ｏｒ               ｔｈｅ               ｔｗｏ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｄｏ               ｎｏｔ               ａｇｒｅｅ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｍａｒｒｉａｇｅ               ｉｓ               ｉｒｒｅｔｒｉｅｖａｂｌｙ               ｂｒｏｋｅｎ,               ｔｈｅｎ               ｕｐｏｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｒｅｑｕｅｓｔ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｏｕｒｔ               ｏｒ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｉｎｖｏｌｖｅｄ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｃａｓｅ               ａ               ｃｏｕｎｓｅｌｉｎｇ               ｐｅｒｉｏｄ               ｎｏｔ               ｌｅｓｓ               ｔｈａｎ               ｔｈｉｒｔｙ               ｄａｙｓ               ｎｏｒ               ｍｏｒｅ               ｔｈａｎ               ｓｉｘｔｙ               ｄａｙｓ               ｌａｔｅｒ,               ｏｒ               ａｓ               ｓｏｏｎ               ｔｈｅｒｅａｆｔｅｒ               ａｓ               ｔｈｅ               ｍａｔｔｅｒ               ｍａｙ               ｂｅ               ｒｅａｃｈｅｄ               ｏｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｏｕｒｔ'ｓ               ｃａｌｅｎｄａｒ".

(Ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               Ｓｏｕｒｃｅ.ｃｏｍ)               Ｉｎ               ｍａｎｙ               ｃａｓｅｓ,               ｉｔ               ｉｓ               ｎｏｔ               ｕｎｃｏｍｍｏｎ               ｆｏｒ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｉｎｇ               ｃｏｕｐｌｅｓ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｃｈｉｌｄｒｅｎ               ｔｏ               ｂｅ               ｍａｎｄａｔｅｄ               ｔｏ               ｃｏｍｐｌｅｔｅ               ａ               ｐａｒｅｎｔｉｎｇ               ｃｌａｓｓ               ｂｅｆｏｒｅ               ｔｈｅｙ               ｃａｎ               ｐｒｏｃｅｅｄ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｔｈｅ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ.

Ｉｔ               ｈａｓ               ｃｏｍｅ               ｔｏ               ｌｉｇｈｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｓｉｇｎｉｆｉｃａｎｔ               ｄａｍａｇｅ               ｔｈａｔ               ｃａｎ               ｂｅ               ｃａｕｓｅｄ               ｂｙ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｉｎｇ               ｐａｒｅｎｔｓ.

Ｔｈｉｓ               ｃａｎ               ｉｎｃｌｕｄｅ               ｂｅｈａｖｉｏｒａｌ               ａｎｄ               ｅｍｏｔｉｏｎａｌ               ｐｒｏｂｌｅｍｓ               ｂｙ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｈｉｌｄ.
               Ｗｉｔｈ               ｔｈｅ               ｉｎｃｒｅａｓｉｎｇ               ａｍｏｕｎｔ               ｏｆ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｉｔ               ｉｓ               ｉｍｐｏｒｔａｎｔ               ｔｈａｔ               ｐｅｏｐｌｅ               ｕｎｄｅｒｓｔａｎｄ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅｒｅ               ａｒｅ               ｏｔｈｅｒ               ｏｐｔｉｏｎｓ               ａｖａｉｌａｂｌｅ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅｍ               ｔｏ               ｗｏｒｋ               ｏｕｔ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｄｉｓｐｕｔｅｓ               ａｎｄ               ｄｉｓｓｏｌｖｅ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｍａｒｒｉａｇｅ.

Ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｓｈｏｕｌｄ               ｂｅ               ｄｅａｌｔ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｉｎ               ａ               ｄｉｇｎｉｆｉｅｄ               ａｎｄ               ｐｒｏｃｅｓｓ               ｏｒｉｅｎｔｅｄ               ｍａｎｎｅｒ               ｔｈａｔ               ｐｒｏｖｉｄｅｓ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｔｈｅ               ｂｅｓｔ               ｏｐｔｉｏｎｓ               ｆｏｒ               ｓｕｃｃｅｓｓ               ｆｏｒ               ｍａｉｎｔａｉｎｉｎｇ               ｔｈｅ               ａｇｒｅｅｍｅｎｔｓ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅｙ               ｈａｖｅ               ｃｏｍｅ               ｔｏ.

Ｔｈｉｓ               ｉｓ               ｏｆ               ｃｏｕｒｓｅ               ｅａｓｉｅｒ               ｓａｉｄ               ｔｈａｎ               ｄｏｎｅ,               ｂｕｔ               ｉｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｗｏｒｋ               ｔｏｇｅｔｈｅｒ               ｉｎ               ａ               ｖｏｌｕｎｔａｒｙ               ｂａｓｉｓ               ｔｈｅ               ａｇｒｅｅｍｅｎｔｓ               ａｒｅ               ｍｏｒｅ               ｌｉｋｅｌｙ               ｔｏ               ｂｅ               ｕｐｈｅｌｄ.
               Ｔｈｅ               ｉｍｐｏｒｔａｎｃｅ               ｏｆ               ａ               Ｎｅｕｔｒａｌ               Ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               Ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               Ｐｒｏｃｅｓｓ
               Ｉｎ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ,               ｉｔ               ｉｓ               ｎｏｔ               ｕｎｃｏｍｍｏｎ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｍａｉｎ               ｉｓｓｕｅｓ               ｍａｙ               ｂｅ               ｓｕｂｓｔａｎｔｉｖｅ               ｉｓｓｕｅｓ,               ｗｈｉｃｈ               ｉｎｖｏｌｖｅ               "ｍｏｎｅｙ               ａｎｄ               ｔｉｍｅ".

(Ｍｏｏｒｅ,               2003,               ｐ.

75)               Ｔｈｅ               ｍａｊｏｒｉｔｙ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｉｓｓｕｅｓ               ｗｈｉｃｈ               ａｒｅ               ｓｕｂｓｔａｎｔｉｖｅ               ｍａｙ               ｓｕｒｒｏｕｎｄ               ｗｈｏ               ｗｉｌｌ               ｇｅｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｈｏｕｓｅ,               ｃａｒｓ,               ｂａｎｋ               ａｃｃｏｕｎｔｓ               ａｎｄ               ｅｖｅｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｈｉｌｄｒｅｎ.

Ｔｉｍｅ               ｉｓ               ａｌｓｏ               ａ               ｖａｌｕａｂｌｅ               ｃｏｍｍｏｄｉｔｙ               ｆｏｒ               ｐｅｏｐｌｅ               ｇｏｉｎｇ               ｔｈｒｏｕｇｈ               ａ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ.

Ｐａｒｅｎｔｉｎｇ               ｔｉｍｅ               ｉｓ               ｃｒｕｃｉａｌ               ｉｎ               ｃａｓｅｓ               ｗｈｅｒｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｈｉｌｄｒｅｎ               ａｒｅ               ｓｔｉｌｌ               ｌｉｖｉｎｇ               ａｔ               ｈｏｍｅ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｏｎｅ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｅｎｔｓ               ａｎｄ               ｔｈｅ               ｏｔｈｅｒ               ｐａｒｅｎｔ               ｈａｓ               ｖｉｓｉｔａｔｉｏｎ.
               Ｔｈｉｎｇｓ               ｃａｎ               ｏｂｖｉｏｕｓｌｙ               ｂｅｃｏｍｅ               ｑｕｉｔｅ               ｃｏｍｐｌｅｘ               ｗｈｅｎ               ｉｔ               ｃｏｍｅｓ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅｓｅ               ｔｙｐｅｓ               ｏｆ               ｓｉｔｕａｔｉｏｎｓ,               ａｎｄ               ｔｈａｔ               ｉｓ               ｗｈｙ               ｔｈｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｍｕｓｔ               ｂｅ               ａｗａｒｅ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｌｏｃａｌ               ｌａｗｓ               ａｎｄ               ｒｅｇｕｌａｔｉｏｎｓ               ｒｅｇａｒｄｉｎｇ               ｔｈｅｓｅ               ｍａｔｔｅｒｓ.

Ｉｔ               ｉｓ               ｔｈｏｕｇｈｔ               ｔｈａｔ               "ｔｈｅ               ｂｅｓｔ               ｄｅｃｉｓｉｏｎｓ               ａｒｅ               ｏｆｔｅｎ               ａｒｒｉｖｅｄ               ａｔ               ｂｙ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ"               ｗｈｉｃｈ               ａｌｓｏ               ｌｅａｄｓ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ｉｍｐｏｒｔａｎｃｅ               ｏｆ               ａ               ｖｏｌｕｎｔａｒｙ               ｃｏｍｍｉｔｍｅｎｔ               ｔｏ               ｓｅｔｔｌｉｎｇ               ｔｈｅ               ｄｉｓｐｕｔｅｓ               ｂｅｔｗｅｅｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ.

(Ｍｏｏｒｅ,               2003,               ｐ.78)               Ｔｈｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｐｒｏｃｅｓｓ               ｓｈｏｕｌｄ               ｓｅｒｖｅ               ａｓ               ａ               ｇｕｉｄｅ               ｆｏｒ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ａｎｄ               ｏｆｆｅｒ               "ｐｒｏｃｅｄｕｒａｌ               ｈｅｌｐ"               ｂｕｔ               ｎｏｔ               ｕｎｓｏｌｉｃｉｔｅｄ               ａｄｖｉｃｅ.

(Ｍｏｏｒｅ,               2003,               ｐ.

78)
               Ｄｕｅ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ｆａｃｔ               ｔｈａｔ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｉｓ               ｏｆｔｅｎ               ａｎ               ｅｍｏｔｉｏｎａｌ               ｅｘｐｅｒｉｅｎｃｅ               ｆｏｒ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ,               ｔｈｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｍｕｓｔ               ｎｏｔ               ｓｈｏｗ               ａｎｙ               ｅｍｏｔｉｏｎｓ               ｔｈａｔ               ｗｏｕｌｄ               ｌｅａｄ               ｅｉｔｈｅｒ               ｐａｒｔｙ               ｔｏ               ｂｅｌｉｅｖｅ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅｒｅ               ｍａｙ               ｂｅ               ａ               ｂｉａｓ               ｆｏｒ               ｏｒ               ａｇａｉｎｓｔ               ｏｎｅ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ.

Ｉｆ               ｂｙ               ｔｈｅ               ｓｌｉｇｈｔｅｓｔ               ｃｈａｎｃｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               "ｌｅｔｓ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｅｍｏｔｉｏｎｓ               ｓｕｒｆａｃｅ",               ｔｈｅ               ｎｅｕｔｒａｌｉｔｙ               ｈａｓ               ｂｅｅｎ               ｄｅｓｔｒｏｙｅｄ,               ａｎｄ               ｔｈｅ               ｔｒｕｓｔ               ａｎｄ               ｃｒｅｄｉｂｉｌｉｔｙ               ｗｉｌｌ               ｂｅ               ｄｅｓｔｒｏｙｅｄ.

(Ｍｏｏｒｅ,               2003               ｐ.

65)               Ｉｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｆａｉｌｓ               ｔｏ               ｄｉｓｇｕｉｓｅ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｅｍｏｔｉｏｎｓ               ｉｔ               ｃａｎ               ａｌｓｏ               ｃｒｅａｔｅ               ａ               ｐｏｗｅｒ               ｉｍｂａｌａｎｃｅ               ｂｅｔｗｅｅｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ａｎｄ               ｔｈｅｒｅ               ｗｉｌｌ               ｂｅ               ｄｉｆｆｉｃｕｌｔｙ               ｉｎ               ｃｏｏｐｅｒａｔｉｏｎ               ｂｅｔｗｅｅｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ.
               Ｔｈａｔ               ｉｓ               ｗｈｙ               ｉｔ               ｉｓ               ｃｒｕｃｉａｌ               ｆｏｒ               ｔｈｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｔｏ               ｅｎｓｕｒｅ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｐｏｗｅｒ               ｈａｓ               ｂｅｅｎ               "ｅｑｕａｌｉｚｅｄ".

(Ｍｏｏｒｅ,               2003,               ｐ.71)               Ｉｎ               ｏｒｄｅｒ               ｔｏ               ｍａｋｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｆｅｅｌ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅｙ               ａｒｅ               ｂｅｉｎｇ               ａｌｌｏｗｅｄ               ｔｏ               ｂｅ               ｉｎ               ｃｏｎｔｒｏｌ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｐｒｏｃｅｓｓ               ｔｈｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｓｈｏｕｌｄ               "ａｌｌｏｗ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｔｏ               "ａｇｒｅｅ               ａｎｄ               ｄｉｓａｇｒｅｅ".

(Ｍｏｏｒｅ,               203,               ｐ.

64)               Ｃｏｎｆｌｉｃｔ               ｉｓ               ｗｈｙ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ａｒｅ               ｔｈｅｒｅ,               ｉｎ               ｏｒｄｅｒ               ｔｏ               ｓｏｌｖｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｐｒｏｂｌｅｍｓ               ｔｈａｔ               ｍｕｓｔ               ｂｅ               ｓｏｌｖｅｄ               ｉｎ               ｏｒｄｅｒ               ｔｏ               ｓａｌｖａｇｅ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｓａｎｉｔｙ,               ａｎｄ               ｄｉｇｎｉｔｙ,               ｉｔ               ｉｓ               ｎｏｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｐｌａｃｅ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｔｏ               ｊｕｄｇｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ.


               Ａｎ               ｉｄｅａｌ               ｔｙｐｅ               ｏｆ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｆｏｒ               ｓｅｔｔｌｉｎｇ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｃａｓｅｓ               ｗｏｕｌｄ               ｂｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｂｅｎｅｖｏｌｅｎｔ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ.

Ｔｈｅ               ｂｅｎｅｖｏｌｅｎｔ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               "ｓｅｅｋｓ               ｔｈｅ               ｂｅｓｔ               ｒｅｓｏｌｕｔｉｏｎ               ｆｏｒ               ａｌｌ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ".

(Ｍｏｏｒｅ,               2003,               ｐｐ.

44-45)               Ｗｈｉｌｅ               ｉｔ               ｓｈｏｕｌｄ               ｂｅ               ｋｎｏｗｎ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｉｓ               ｔｙｐｅ               ｏｆ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｄｏｅｓ               ｎｏｔ               ｈａｖｅ               ａ               ｖｅｓｔｅｄ               ｉｎｔｅｒｅｓｔ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｏｕｔｃｏｍｅ,               ｔｈｅｙ               ｍａｙ               "ｕｓｅ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ａｖａｉｌａｂｌｅ               ｒｅｓｏｕｒｃｅｓ               ｔｏ               ｈｅｌｐ               ｍｏｎｉｔｏｒ               ｏｒ               ｉｍｐｌｅｍｅｎｔ               ｔｈｅ               ａｇｒｅｅｍｅｎｔ               ｂｅｔｗｅｅｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ".

(Ｍｏｏｒｅ,               2003,               ｐｐ.

44-45)               Ｔｈｅ               ｂｅｎｅｖｏｌｅｎｔ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｗｉｌｌ               ｎｏｔ               ｕｓｅ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｉｎｆｌｕｅｎｃｅ               ｔｏ               ｉｍｐａｃｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｏｕｔｃｏｍｅ,               ｔｈｅ               ｏｕｔｃｏｍｅ               ｉｓ               ｂａｓｅｄ               ｕｐｏｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｗｏｒｋ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｏｕｐｌｅ               ｂａｓｅｄ               ｕｐｏｎ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｉｎｄｉｖｉｄｕａｌ               ｎｅｅｄｓ.
               Ｔｈｅｒｅ               ｉｓ               ｏｎｅ               ｏｔｈｅｒ               ｔｙｐｅ               ｏｆ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｔｈａｔ               ｍａｙ               ｂｅ               ａｐｐｒｏｐｒｉａｔｅ               ｆｏｒ               ｔｈｅ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｐｒｏｃｅｓｓ.

Ｔｈｅ               Ａｄｍｉｎｉｓｔｒａｔｉｖｅ/Ｍａｎａｇｅｒｉａｌ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｍａｙ               ｃｕｒｒｅｎｔｌｙ               ｏｒ               ｐｒｅｖｉｏｕｓｌｙ               ｈａｖｅ               ａ               ｒｅｌａｔｉｏｎｓｈｉｐ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ.

Ｔｈｉｓ               ｍａｙ               ｂｅ               ａ               ｃｌｏｓｅ               ｆｒｉｅｎｄ,               ａｎ               ａｔｔｏｒｎｅｙ               ｏｒ               ｓｏｍｅｏｎｅ               ｔｈａｔ               ｂｏｔｈ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｈａｖｅ               ｗｏｒｋｅｄ               ｗｉｔｈ               ａｎｄ               ｔｒｕｓｔ,               ｏｒ               ａｎ               ｕｎｋｎｏｗｎ               ｐｅｒｓｏｎ.

Ｔｈｉｓ               ｔｙｐｅ               ｏｆ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｍａｙ               ｂｅ               ａ               ｇｒｅａｔ               ｉｄｅａ               ｆｏｒ               ａ               ｃｏｕｐｌｅ               ｗｈｏ               ｃａｎｎｏｔ               ｍａｋｅ               ｃｅｒｔａｉｎ               ｉｍｐｏｒｔａｎｔ               ｄｅｃｉｓｉｏｎｓ               ｆｏｒ               ｔｈｅｍｓｅｌｖｅｓ.

Ｆｏｒ               ｉｎｓｔａｎｃｅ,               ｔｈｅ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｉｎｇ               ｃｏｕｐｌｅ               ｃａｎｎｏｔ               ｄｅｃｉｄｅ               ｗｈｏ               ｓｈｏｕｌｄ               ｇｅｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｈｉｎａ               ｏｒ               ｏｔｈｅｒ               ｇｉｆｔｓ               ｔｈｅｙ               ｒｅｃｅｉｖｅｄ               ｗｈｉｌｅ               ｔｈｅｙ               ｗｅｒｅ               ｍａｒｒｉｅｄ.

Ｔｈｉｓ               ｗｏｕｌｄ               ｂｅ               ａｎ               ｏｐｐｏｒｔｕｎｉｔｙ               ｆｏｒ               ｔｈｅ               Ａｄｍｉｎｉｓｔｒａｔｉｖｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｔｏ               ｍａｋｅ               ｔｈａｔ               ｄｅｃｉｓｉｏｎ               ｂａｓｅｄ               ｏｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｆａｃｔｓ               ａｎｄ               ｆａｉｒｎｅｓｓ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｓｉｔｕａｔｉｏｎ.

Ｔｈｉｓ               ｔｙｐｅ               ｏｆ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               "ｄｏｅｓ               ｈａｖｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｐｏｗｅｒ               ｔｏ               ｍａｋｅ               ｄｅｃｉｓｉｏｎｓ               ａｎｄ               ｅｎｆｏｒｃｅ               ａｇｒｅｅｍｅｎｔｓ               ｂｅｔｗｅｅｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ".

(Ｍｏｏｒｅ,               2003,               ｐｐ.

44-45)
               Ｐｏｓｓｉｂｌｅ               Ｉｍｐｒｏｖｅｍｅｎｔｓ               ｉｎ               Ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               Ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ
               Ａｆｔｅｒ               ａ               ｓｉｇｎｉｆｉｃａｎｔ               ａｍｏｕｎｔ               ｏｆ               ｒｅｓｅａｒｃｈ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｆｉｅｌｄ               ｏｆ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ,               Ｉ               ｈａｖｅ               ｃｏｍｅ               ｕｐ               ｗｉｔｈ               ａ               ｆｅｗ               ｓｕｇｇｅｓｔｅｄ               ｉｍｐｒｏｖｅｍｅｎｔｓ.

Ｔｈｅ               ｆｉｒｓｔ               ａｒｅａ               ｆｏｒ               ｉｍｐｒｏｖｅｍｅｎｔ               ｉｓ               ｔｏ               ｍａｋｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｒｅａｄｉｌｙ               ａｖａｉｌａｂｌｅ               ａｎｄ               ａｆｆｏｒｄａｂｌｅ               ｔｏ               ｅｖｅｒｙｏｎｅ               ｒｅｇａｒｄｌｅｓｓ               ｏｆ               ａｂｉｌｉｔｙ               ｔｏ               ｐａｙ.

Ｗｈｉｌｅ               ｔｈｅｒｅ               ａｒｅ               ｎｕｍｅｒｏｕｓ               Ｓｔａｔｅｓ               ｔｈａｔ               ｈａｖｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｐｒｏｇｒａｍｓ               ｆｏｒ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｔｈｅｒｅ               ａｒｅ               ｓｔｉｌｌ               ｎｏｔ               ｅｎｏｕｇｈ.
               Ｍａｎｙ               Ｓｔａｔｅｓ               ｒｅｑｕｉｒｅ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｕｔｉｌｉｚｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｂｅｆｏｒｅ               ｐｒｏｃｅｅｄｉｎｇ               ｔｈｒｏｕｇｈ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｏｕｒｔｓ               ｔｏ               ｄｅｃｉｄｅ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ.

Ｔｈｉｓ               ｗｏｕｌｄ               ｔａｋｅ               ａ               ｓｉｇｎｉｆｉｃａｎｔ               ｂｕｒｄｅｎ               ｏｆｆ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｏｕｒｔｓ               ｉｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｃｏｕｌｄ               ｗｉｌｌｉｎｇｌｙ               ｗｏｒｋ               ｔｏｇｅｔｈｅｒ               ｔｏ               ｍａｋｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｄｅｃｉｓｉｏｎｓ               ｔｈａｔ               ｃａｎ               ｂｅ               ｖｅｒｙ               ｔｉｍｅ               ｃｏｎｓｕｍｉｎｇ               ａｎｄ               ｃｏｓｔｌｙ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｔｒａｄｉｔｉｏｎａｌ               ｃｏｕｒｔ               ｓｅｔｔｉｎｇ.


               Ｗｈｅｎ               Ｍａｒｋ               Ｌｏｙｅ,               ｖｉｓｉｔｅｄ               ｏｕｒ               ｃｌａｓｓ               ｄｕｒｉｎｇ               ｔｈｅ               ｆｉｒｓｔ               ｗｅｅｋｅｎｄ,               ｗｅ               ｌｅａｒｎｅｄ               ａｂｏｕｔ               ｔｈｅ               Ｊｅｆｆｅｒｓｏｎ               Ｃｏｕｎｔｙ               Ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               Ｓｅｒｖｉｃｅｓ.

Ｐｒｏｇｒａｍｓ               ｓｕｃｈ               ａｓ               ｔｈｅ               Ｊｅｆｆｅｒｓｏｎ               Ｃｏｕｎｔｙ               Ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               Ｓｅｒｖｉｃｅｓ               ａｒｅ               ａ               ｗｏｎｄｅｒｆｕｌ               ｒｅｓｏｕｒｃｅ               ｆｏｒ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ.

Ｔｈｅｙ               ａｌｓｏ               ｐｒｏｖｉｄｅ               ａ               ｒｅｓｏｕｒｃｅ               ｆｏｒ               ｓａｖｉｎｇ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｏｕｒｔｓ               ａｎｄ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｍｏｎｅｙ.

Ｓｏｍｅ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｃａｓｅｓ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅｙ               ｈａｎｄｌｅ               ａｒｅ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ,               ｃｏｍｐｌａｉｎｔｓ,               ｄｉｓｐｕｔｅｓ,               ｌａｎｄｌｏｒｄ               ｔｅｎａｎｔ               ｉｓｓｕｅｓ,               ａｎｄ               ｍａｎｙ               ｍｏｒｅ.

Ａｓ               ｍｅｎｔｉｏｎｅｄ               ｂｅｆｏｒｅ,               ｔｈｅ               ａｖａｉｌａｂｉｌｉｔｙ               ｉｓ               ｔｈｅｒｅ,               ｉｔ               ｉｓ               ｆｒｅｅ               ｉｎ               ｃｏｓｔ,               ｉｔ               ｓａｖｅｓ               ｓｕｂｓｔａｎｔｉａｌ               ａｍｏｕｎｔｓ               ｏｆ               ｔｉｍｅ,               ｍｏｎｅｙ,               ａｎｄ               ｉｔ               ｃａｎ               ｂｅ               ｈｉｇｈｌｙ               ｂｅｎｅｆｉｃｉａｌ               ｔｏ               ａｌｌ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｉｎ               ｃｒｅａｔｉｎｇ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｏｗｎ               ｒｅｓｏｌｕｔｉｏｎ.

Ｔｈｅ               Ｊｅｆｆｅｒｓｏｎ               Ｃｏｕｎｔｙ               ｐｒｏｇｒａｍ               ａｌｓｏ               ｏｆｆｅｒｓ               ｃｏｎｖｅｎｉｅｎｔ               ｔｉｍｅｓ               ｆｏｒ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｔｏ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｅ,               ｗｅｅｋｅｎｄｓ,               ｅｖｅｎｉｎｇｓ               ａｎｄ               ｄａｙｔｉｍｅ               ｈｏｕｒｓ.

Ｔｈｅ               ｄｉｓｐｕｔｅ               ｍｕｓｔ               ｈｏｗｅｖｅｒ               ｂｅ               ｒｅｆｅｒｒｅｄ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ｐｒｏｇｒａｍ               ｆｏｒ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ.


               Ｔｈｅ               Ｓｔａｔｅ               ｏｆ               Ｎｅｗ               Ｊｅｒｓｅｙ               ａｌｓｏ               ｉｎｃｏｒｐｏｒａｔｅｓ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｉｎｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｐｒｏｃｅｓｓ.

Ｎｅｗ               Ｊｅｒｓｅｙ               ｈａｓ               ａ               ｐｉｌｏｔ               ｐｒｏｇｒａｍ               ｗｈｉｃｈ               ｏｒｄｅｒｓ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｗｈｏ               ｈａｖｅ               ｂｅｅｎ               ｕｎａｂｌｅ               ｔｏ               ｓｅｔｔｌｅ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｆｉｎａｎｃｉａｌ               ｉｓｓｕｅｓ               ｔｏ               ａｔｔｅｎｄ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ.

Ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ａｒｅ               ｔｈｅｎ               ｏｒｄｅｒｅｄ               ｔｏ               ｍｅｅｔ               ｗｉｔｈ               ａ               "ｃｏｕｒｔ-ａｐｐｒｏｖｅｄ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ"               ｔｏ               ｄｉｓｃｕｓｓ               ｔｈｅ               ｕｎｒｅｓｏｌｖｅｄ               ｉｓｓｕｅｓ.

(Ｉｍｂａｌｚａｎｏ,               Ｍ.

2006,               ｐ.1)               Ｕｎｌｉｋｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｔｒａｄｉｔｉｏｎａｌ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｐｒｏｃｅｓｓ,               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｄｏｅｓ               ｎｏｔ               "ｐｉｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ａｇａｉｎｓｔ               ｏｎｅ               ａｎｏｔｈｅｒ",               ｉｎ               ｗｈｉｃｈ               ｔｈｅｙ               ｔｒｙ               ｔｏ               ｏｕｔ-               ｄｏ,               ｏｕｔ               ｓｍａｒｔ               ａｎｄ               ｗｉｎ               ｏｖｅｒ               ｔｈｅ               ｏｔｈｅｒ               ｐａｒｔｙ.

(Ｉｍｂａｌｚａｎｏ,               Ｍ.

2006,               ｐ.2)               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｉｓ               ａ               "ｎｏｎ-ａｄｖｅｒｓａｒｉａｌ               ｐｒｏｃｅｓｓ"               ｉｎ               ｗｈｉｃｈ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ａｒｅ               ｇｉｖｅｎ               ａ               ｓａｆｅ               ｅｎｖｉｒｏｎｍｅｎｔ               ｔｏ               ｄｉｓｃｕｓｓ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｐｒｏｂｌｅｍｓ               ａｎｄ               ｗｏｒｋ               ｏｕｔ               ｒｅｓｏｌｕｔｉｏｎｓ.

(Ｉｍｂａｌｚａｎｏ,               Ｍ.

2006,               ｐ.2)
               Ｉ               ａｌｓｏ               ｆｅｅｌ               ｔｈａｔ               ｏｎ-ｇｏｉｎｇ               ｔｒａｉｎｉｎｇ               ｓｈｏｕｌｄ               ｂｅ               ａ               ｒｅｑｕｉｒｅｍｅｎｔ               ｆｏｒ               ａｎｙｏｎｅ               ｉｎｖｏｌｖｅｄ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｆｉｅｌｄ               ｉｎｖｏｌｖｉｎｇ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ,               ｐｒｉｍａｒｉｌｙ               ｉｎ               ｒｅｇａｒｄｓ               ｔｏ               ｐｒｏｔｅｃｔｉｎｇ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｈｉｌｄｒｅｎ               ｉｎ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ.

Ｄｕｅ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ｆａｃｔ               ｔｈａｔ               ｃｈｉｌｄｒｅｎ               ａｒｅ               ｖｕｌｎｅｒａｂｌｅ               ａｎｄ               ｃａｎ               ｂｅ               ｅｍｏｔｉｏｎａｌｌｙ               ｓｃａｒｒｅｄ               ｂｙ               ｃｏｎｆｌｉｃｔ,               ｔｈｅｒｅ               ｓｈｏｕｌｄ               ｂｅ               ｍｏｒｅ               ｐｒｏｔｅｃｔｉｏｎ               ｆｏｒ               ｔｈｅ               ｗｅｌｌｂｅｉｎｇ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｈｉｌｄｒｅｎ.

Ｔｈｉｓ               ｍａｙ               ｅｎｔａｉｌ               ｐｒｏｖｉｄｉｎｇ               ｒｅｆｅｒｒａｌｓ               ｔｏ               ｆａｍｉｌｙ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｏｒ               ｃｏｕｎｓｅｌｉｎｇ               ｓｅｒｖｉｃｅｓ               ｔｏ               ｅｎｓｕｒｅ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｒｉｔｉｃａｌ               ｒｅｌａｔｉｏｎｓｈｉｐｓ               ｂｅｔｗｅｅｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｅｎｔｓ               ａｎｄ               ｃｈｉｌｄｒｅｎ               ａｒｅ               ｎｏｔ               ｄａｍａｇｅｄ               ｏｒ               ｄｅｓｔｒｏｙｅｄ.

Ｔｈｅ               ｔｒａｉｎｉｎｇ               ｓｈｏｕｌｄ               ａｌｓｏ               ｉｎｖｏｌｖｅ               ｗａｙｓ               ｔｏ               ｄｅａｌ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｄｉｆｆｉｃｕｌｔ               ｐｅｏｐｌｅ,               ｄｉｆｆｅｒｅｎｔ               ｃｕｌｔｕｒｅｓ,               ａｎｄ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｗｈｅｎ               ｃｈｉｌｄｒｅｎ               ａｒｅ               ｉｎｖｏｌｖｅｄ               ｔｏ               ｐｒｏｔｅｃｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｉｎｔｅｒｅｓｔ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｈｉｌｄｒｅｎ.

Ｔｈｅ               ｏｎｌｙ               ｄｒａｗ               ｂａｃｋ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｉｓ               ｔｈａｔ               Ｉ               ｃａｎ               ｓｅｅ               ｉｓ               ｗｈｏ               ｗｏｕｌｄ               ｍｏｎｉｔｏｒ               ｔｈｉｓ               ｋｉｎｄ               ｏｆ               ｐｒｏｇｒａｍ?

Ｓｐｅｃｉｆｉｃａｌｌｙ               ｓｉｎｃｅ               ｉｎ               Ｃｏｌｏｒａｄｏ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒｓ               ｄｏ               ｎｏｔ               ｎｅｅｄ               ｔｏ               ｂｅ               ｌｉｃｅｎｓｅｄ               ｏｒ               ｃｅｒｔｉｆｉｅｄ               ｔｏ               ｐｒａｃｔｉｃｅ,               ｉｔ               ｗｏｕｌｄ               ｂｅ               ｄｉｆｆｉｃｕｌｔ               ｔｏ               ｍｏｎｉｔｏｒ.
               Ｔｈｅ               ｍａｉｎ               ｃｏｎｃｅｒｎ               ｉｓ               ｔｈａｔ               ｃｏｕｐｌｅｓ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｃｈｉｌｄｒｅｎ               ｗｈｏ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍａｙ               ｈｏｌｄ               ｖｏｌａｔｉｌｅ               ｆｅｅｌｉｎｇｓ               ｔｏｗａｒｄｓ               ｔｈｅ               ｏｔｈｅｒ               ｓｐｏｕｓｅ               ａｎｄ               ｗｈｉｌｅ               ｔｈｅｙ               ｍａｙ               ｎｅｖｅｒ               ｗａｎｔ               ｔｏ               ｓｅｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｏｔｈｅｒ               ｐｅｒｓｏｎ               ａｇａｉｎ,               ｔｈｉｓ               ｉｓ               ｍｏｓｔ               ｌｉｋｅｌｙ               ｎｏｔ               ａｎ               ｏｐｔｉｏｎ.

Ｕｎｆｏｒｔｕｎａｔｅｌｙ,               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｅｎｔｓ               ｍａｙ               ｈｏｌｄ               ｔｈｅｓｅ               ａｎｇｒｙ               ｆｅｅｌｉｎｇｓ               ａｇａｉｎｓｔ               ｏｎｅ               ａｎｏｔｈｅｒ               ｂｕｔ               ａｔ               ｔｈｅ               ｓａｍｅ               ｔｉｍｅ               ｔｈｅｙ               ａｒｅ               ｈｕｒｔｉｎｇ               ａｎｄ               ｅｓｓｅｎｔｉａｌｌｙ               "ｄｉｖｏｒｃｉｎｇ"               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｃｈｉｌｄ               ａｓ               ｗｅｌｌ               ａｓ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｓｐｏｕｓｅ.

(Ｅｍｅｒｙ,               Ｓｂａｒｒａ               &               Ｇｒｏｖｅｒ,               2005,               ｐ.7)               Ｗｉｔｈ               ｔｈｉｓ               ｔｈｏｕｇｈｔ               ｉｎ               ｍｉｎｄ,               ｔｈｅ               ｕｓｅ               ｏｆ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ａｎｄ               ｃｏｕｒｔ               ａｐｐｒｏｖａｌ               ｓｈｏｕｌｄ               ｍａｎｄａｔｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｃｉｐａｔｉｏｎ               ｏｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｅｎｔｓ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｈｉｌｄｒｅｎ'ｓ               ｌｉｖｅｓ,               ｐｒｏｖｉｄｅｄ               ｔｈａｔ               ｔｈｅｙ               ｗｅｒｅ               ｉｎｖｏｌｖｅｄ               ｏｎ               ａ               ｆｕｌｌ               ｔｉｍｅ               ｂａｓｉｓ               ｐｒｉｏｒ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ａｎｄ               ｔｈｅｙ               ａｒｅ               ｎｏｔ               ｃｏｎｓｉｄｅｒｅｄ               ｔｏ               ｂｅ               ａ               ｄａｎｇｅｒ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｈｉｌｄｒｅｎ               ｏｒ               ｔｈｅｍｓｅｌｖｅｓ.

Ｉｔ               ｉｓ               ｕｎｆａｉｒ               ｆｏｒ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｈｉｌｄｒｅｎ               ｔｏ               ｌｏｓｅ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｓｔａｂｉｌｉｔｙ               ｄｕｅ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｅｎｔｓ               ｂｅｉｎｇ               ｕｎａｂｌｅ               ｔｏ               ｍａｉｎｔａｉｎ               ａ               ｒｅｌａｔｉｏｎｓｈｉｐ.

Ｕｎｆｏｒｔｕｎａｔｅｌｙ,               ｔｈｉｓ               ｔｙｐｅ               ｏｆ               ｍａｎｄａｔｅ               ｉｓ               ａｌｓｏ               ｄｉｆｆｉｃｕｌｔ               ｔｏ               ｍｏｎｉｔｏｒ               ｄｕｅ               ｔｏ               ｔｈｅ               ｓｉｇｎｉｆｉｃａｎｔ               ａｍｏｕｎｔ               ｏｆ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅｓ               ｗｈｉｃｈ               ｔａｋｅ               ｐｌａｃｅ.


               Ｔｈｅ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｐｒｏｃｅｓｓ               ｉｓ               ａ               ｄｉｆｆｉｃｕｌｔ               ｓｉｔｕａｔｉｏｎ               ｂｕｔ               ｍａｎｙ               ｔｉｍｅｓ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｈｉｌｄｒｅｎ               ａｒｅ               ｔｈｅ               ｏｎｅｓ               ｗｈｏ               ｓｕｆｆｅｒ               ｔｈｅ               ｍｏｓｔ.

Ｉ               ｃａｎ               ｓｐｅａｋ               ｆｒｏｍ               ｐｅｒｓｏｎａｌ               ｅｘｐｅｒｉｅｎｃｅ               ｔｈａｔ               Ｉ               ｈａｖｅ               ｓｅｅｎ               ｔｈｉｓ               ｈａｐｐｅｎ               ｏｎｅ               ｔｏｏ               ｍａｎｙ               ｔｉｍｅｓ.

Ｓｉｔｕａｔｉｏｎｓ               ｉｎ               ｗｈｉｃｈ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｅｎｔｓ               ｇｅｔ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅｄ               ａｎｄ               ｔｈｅ               ａｂｓｅｎｔ               ｐａｒｅｎｔ               ｄｏｅｓ               ｎｏｔ               ｐａｙ               ａｎｙ               ｃｈｉｌｄ               ｓｕｐｐｏｒｔ               ｏｒ               ｈｅｌｐ               ｉｎ               ａｎｙｗａｙ               ｏｒ               ｗｏｒｓｅ               ｙｅｔ               ｔｈｅｙ               ｊｕｓｔ               ｄｉｓａｐｐｅａｒ.

Ｈｏｗｅｖｅｒ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｔｈｅ               ｕｓｅ               ｏｆ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ,               ｉｆ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｅｎｔｓ               ｃａｎ               ｔｒｙ               ｔｏ               ｆｉｎｄ               ａ               ｗａｙ               ｔｏ               ｗｏｒｋ               ｔｏｇｅｔｈｅｒ,               ａｎｄ               ｍａｋｅ               ｔｈｅ               ａｇｒｅｅｍｅｎｔｓ               ｔｈｅｍｓｅｌｖｅｓ               ｔｈｅｙ               ａｒｅ               ｍｏｒｅ               ｌｉｋｅｌｙ               ｔｏ               ｓｔｉｃｋ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｉｔ               ａｎｄ               ｐｒｏｖｉｄｅ               ｔｈｅｉｒ               ｃｈｉｌｄｒｅｎ               ｗｉｔｈ               ａ               ｓｔａｂｌｅ               ｌｉｆｅ.
               Ｃｏｎｃｌｕｓｉｏｎ
               Ｉｎ               ｍｙ               ｐａｐｅｒ               Ｉ               ｄｉｓｃｕｓｓｅｄ               ｔｈｅ               ｈｉｓｔｏｒｙ               ａｎｄ               ｄｅｖｅｌｏｐｍｅｎｔｓ               ｏｆ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ.

Ｉ               ａｌｓｏ               ａｓｓｅｓｓｅｄ               ｔｈｅ               ｅｆｆｅｃｔｉｖｅｎｅｓｓ               ｏｆ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ａｎｄ               ｔｈｅ               ｃｕｒｒｅｎｔ               ｉｓｓｕｅｓ               ｒｅｌａｔｅｄ               ｔｏ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ.

Ｉ               ｗｉｌｌ               ａｌｓｏ               ｄｉｓｃｕｓｓ               ｔｈｅ               ｉｍｐｏｒｔａｎｃｅ               ｏｆ               ａ               ｎｅｕｔｒａｌ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｏｒ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｐｒｏｃｅｓｓ.

Ｌａｓｔｌｙ,               Ｉ               ｇａｖｅ               ｓｕｇｇｅｓｔｉｏｎｓ               ｆｏｒ               ｉｍｐｒｏｖｅｍｅｎｔｓ               ｗｈｉｃｈ               ｃｏｕｌｄ               ｂｅ               ｍａｄｅ               ｉｎ               ｔｈｅ               ｆｉｅｌｄ               ｏｆ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ.

Ｉｔ               ｉｓ               ｃｌｅａｒ               ｔｈａｔ               ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               ｉｓ               ｃｏｎｔｉｎｕａｌｌｙ               ｇｒｏｗｉｎｇ               ｆｉｅｌｄ               ｗｈｉｃｈ               ｒｅｑｕｉｒｅｓ               ｉｎｄｉｖｉｄｕａｌｓ               ｗｉｔｈ               ｔｈｅ               ｋｎｏｗｌｅｄｇｅ               ａｎｄ               ｅｘｐｅｒｉｅｎｃｅ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ｏｒ               ｌｉｔｉｇａｔｉｏｎ               ｔｏ               ｈｅｌｐ               ｔｈｅ               ｐａｒｔｉｅｓ               ｍａｋｅ               ｄｅｃｉｓｉｏｎｓ.

Ｈｏｗｅｖｅｒ,               ｍｏｒｅ               ｉｍｐｏｒｔａｎｔｌｙ               ｉｓ               ｔｈｅ               ｅｘｐｅｒｉｅｎｃｅ               ａｎｄ               ｎｅｕｔｒａｌｉｔｙ               ｔｈａｔ               ｉｓ               ｒｅｑｕｉｒｅｄ               ｔｏ               ｍｅｄｉａｔｅ               ｔｈｅｓｅ               ｓｏｍｅ               ｔｉｍｅｓ               ｐｒｏｂｌｅｍａｔｉｃ               ｄｉｓｐｕｔｅ.
               Ｒｅｆｅｒｅｎｃｅｓ:
               ｈｔｔｐ://ｗｗｗ.ａｂｏｕｔｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ.ｏｒｇ/ｕｓ_ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ_ｒａｔｅｓ.ｈｔｍｌ
               Ｓｉｔｅ:               ｈｔｔｐ://ｗｗｗ.ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅｓｏｕｒｃｅ.ｃｏｍ/ｉｎｆｏ/ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅｌａｗｓｒｅｑ/ｃｏｌｏｒａｄｏ.ｓｈｔｍｌ               
               Ｉｍｂａｌｚａｎｏ,               Ｍ.

Ｐ.

(Ａｕｇｕｓｔ               14,               20060.

Ｍｅｄｉａｔｅ               ｏｒ               ｌｉｔｉｇａｔｅ,               Ｎｅｗ               Ｊｅｒｓｅｙ               Ｌａｗ               Ｊｏｕｒｎａｌｓ,               ｐ.

ＮＡ.

Ｒｅｔｒｉｅｖｅｄ               Ｆｅｂｒｕａｒｙ               10,               2008               Ｆｒｏｍ               Ｌｅｇａｌ               Ｔｒａｃ               ｖｉａ               Ｇａｌｅ:ｈｔｔｐ://ｆｉｎｄ.ｇａｌｅｇｒｏｕｐ.ｃｏｍ/ｉｔｘ/ｉｎｆｏｍａｒｋ.ｄｏ?&ｃｏｎｔｅｎｔＳｅｔ=ＩＡＣ-               Ｄｏｃｕｍｅｎｔｓ&ｔｙｐｅ=ｒｅｔｒｉｅｖｅ&ｔａｂＩＤ=Ｔ002&ｐｒｏｄＩｄ=ＬＴ&ｄｏｃＩｄ=Ａ149443789&ｓｏｕｒｃｅ=ｇａｌｅ&ｕｓｅｒＧｒｏｕｐＮ
               ＭｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎＡＤＲ.ｎｅｔ               (2008)               Ｈｉｓｔｏｒｙ               ｏｆ               Ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ.

Ｒｅｔｒｉｅｖｅｄ,               Ｆｅｂｒｕａｒｙ               10,               2008,               ｆｒｏｍ               Ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               ＡＤＲ.ｎｅｔ               Ｗｅｂ               ｓｉｔｅ:               ｈｔｔｐ://               ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎａｄｒ.ｎｅｔ/Ｃｏｎｆｌｉｃｔ/ＩｎｆｏｒｍａｔｉｏｎＰｕｂｌｉｃ-Ｍｅｄｓ/Ｈｉｓｔｏｒｙ.ｈｔｍｌ
               ＭｃＫｎｉｇｈｔ,               Ｍ.

&               Ｅｒｉｃｋｓｏｎ,               Ｓ.

(1999).

Ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｎｇ               Ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ:               Ａ               Ｓｔｅｐ-Ｂｙ-Ｓｔｅｐ               Ｍａｎｕａｌ.1ｓｔ               Ｅｄｉｔｉｏｎ,               Ｓａｎ               Ｆｒａｎｃｉｓｃｏ,               Ｃａｌｉｆｏｒｎｉａ,               Ｊｏｓｓｅｙ-Ｂａｓｓ
               Ｍｏｏｒｅ,               Ｃｈｒｉｓｔｏｐｈｅｒ               Ｗ.

(2003).

Ｔｈｅ               Ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ               Ｐｒｏｃｅｓｓ:               Ｐｒａｃｔｉｃａｌ               Ｓｔｒａｔｅｇｉｅｓ               ｆｏｒ               Ｒｅｓｏｌｖｉｎｇ               Ｃｏｎｆｌｉｃｔ,               3ｒｄ               Ｅｄｉｔｉｏｎ,               ｒｅｖｉｓｅｄ,               Ｓａｎ               Ｆｒａｎｃｉｓｃｏ,               Ｃａｌｉｆｏｒｎｉａ,               Ｊｏｓｓｅｙ-Ｂａｓｓ
               Ｓｉｎｇｅｒ,               Ｌｉｎｄａ               Ｒ.

(1994).

Ｓｅｔｔｌｉｎｇ               Ｄｉｓｐｕｔｅｓ:               Ｃｏｎｆｌｉｃｔ               Ｒｅｓｏｌｕｔｉｏｎ               ｉｎ               Ｂｕｓｉｎｅｓｓ,               Ｆａｍｉｌｉｅｓ,               ａｎｄ               ｔｈｅ               Ｌｅｇａｌ               Ｓｙｓｔｅｍ,               2ｎｄ               Ｅｄｉｔｉｏｎ,               Ｂｏｕｌｄｅｒ,               Ｃｏｌｏｒａｄｏ,               Ｗｅｓｔｖｉｅｗ               Ｐｒｅｓｓ
               Ｓｐａｎｇｌｅ,               Ｍ.

&               Ｉｓｅｎｈａｒｔ,               Ｍ.

(2003).

Ｎｅｇｏｔｉａｔｉｏｎ:Ｃｏｍｍｕｎｉｃａｔｉｏｎ               ｆｏｒ               Ｄｉｖｅｒｓｅ               Ｓｅｔｔｉｎｇｓ.

Ｔｈｏｕｓａｎｄ               Ｏａｋｓ,               ＣＡ;               Ｓａｇｅ               Ｐｒｅｓｓ.
               Ｆｒｅｅ               ｅｎｃｙｃｌｏｐｅｄｉａ               Ｗｅｂ               Ｓｉｔｅ:               ｈｔｔｐ://ｅｎ.ｗｉｋｉｐｅｄｉａ.ｏｒｇ/ｗｉｋｉ/Ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ
               Ｅｍｅｒｙ,               Ｒ.,               Ｓｂａｒｒａ,               Ｄ.

&               Ｇｒｏｖｅｒ,               Ｔ.

(2005).

Ｄｉｖｏｒｃｅ               Ｍｅｄｉａｔｉｏｎ:               Ｒｅｓｅａｒｃｈ               ａｎｄ               Ｒｅｆｌｅｃｔｉｏｎｓ.

Ｆａｍｉｌｙ               Ｃｏｕｒｔ               Ｒｅｖｉｅｗ,               43,               1-9.




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